How to limit your child's pampering ?

The intelligence of children is innate and difficult to explain in front of some situations. Despite the simplicity of the child’s thinking, he shows strange intelligence about a game he insists on buying.

 "Children translate the parents' reactions into behaviors that enable them to achieve what they want," said (Dennis Schulman), 

one of the specialists in the field of children's behavior. Therefore, it is a big mistake for the child to become accustomed to meeting his requests. Use twisted methods to achieve his claim.

 A lot of inconveniences is better than a little behavioral deviation, according to the location of (my child),

yet there are many ways to stop this inconvenience. When a child realizes that what he wants is achieved by annoyance, for example, it turns into an annoying child.

The most important means for the child to be ideal,

and ask only what he needs is to avoid exposing him to television and electronic games, and parents should remedy this, and reduce their children's sitting in front of the TV and computer screens.


 Do not be surprised

if your son insists on buying shoes marked by "Ninja Turtles", Captain "Majid" or other cartoon movie heroes, even if that shoe is miserable because children are a valuable catch to commercials, and they are more affected by them and more influencing their parents to buy their products.


 We have to realize that our children are able to be happy without TV, computer games and other games, and our children should not expect a small or big gift at every exit of the market. Many parents who spend many hours away from home, whether at work or others, compensate their children About this absence with frequent gifts.


     Behavior like that does not bring love to children as it binds the child’s satisfaction with one of his parents to the extent that he gives him gifts. Today, many fathers ask the sons of yesterday a number of questions, such as why did the level of prestige of their fathers diminish for their children? ‍! And why did the sons ’discretion and respect for them recede ?!


     In the past, the blood in the veins of children was almost frozen by polarizing eyebrows, a sharp look, orbiting a lip from one of the parents without uttering a word, or reaching out for a beating, despite civilization progress and cultural awareness of both parents, and despite thousands of tons of educational studies, the level of educational fertility It retracts somewhat in front of the education of Ibn Al-Badia or Al-Reef, whose father does not enjoy the same cultural level.


    The people of the countryside and the desert spend almost all of their time caring for camels and cows, milking them, grazing sheep and enjoying their young births, collecting eggs and other inevitable duties.


     Rather, the child there seeks to learn it from his early years, and the young man in the desert or countryside hardly finds a time to rest, and accordingly, he confuses his work with enjoying his time and returns to his home and his lean body has exhausted his description of his mind and thought.


     As for the sons of cities, as long as they wake up late, especially in the holidays, their entertainment program begins in front of the satellite channels, from the cartoon movie to the children's program, to another cartoon film, and if the child feels weary, he turns the computer on for more electronic games, to consume his idea and his vision without consuming it His potential energies.


    Parents must decide to watch their children for these devices, and if the TV is turned off, the son and daughter will search for what is on. Help your children find useful ways to occupy their time, and it is very appropriate for children to understand in performing some homework after eating breakfast. A four-year-old can clean the dining table and transfer breakfast plates to the washbasin, and he can also contribute to washing Dishes with some flattering words.


   A child of five and six years can arrange his bed, collect his toys and books, and start arranging them. It is necessary for the young children to bear some burden so that they get used to the responsibility, no matter how trivial the work of your son and daughter, to do and encourage them to do.


    Note that the provision of these games consumes a budget that is not small compared to the benefits that it brings, and whenever children are born with a feeling that they are special and that their thinking precedes their age, they will automatically turn to smart and transitional consumers.


    This will enhance the aspect of discipline and money conservation. Beware that you give your son or daughter a feeling that the family is poor and unable to secure what the children demand because they will monitor the behavior of their parents and hold them accountable every time they buy something for them.


    Many parents may be overly explaining the reasons for their failure to fulfill their children's desires. Therefore, the son will get used every time he rejects his request to a logical explanation. Regardless of whether they understand what they are told or not. If you refuse your son's request to buy potato chips, it is inappropriate to explain to him the health damages, and it increases cholesterol and raises blood pressure. And contribute to the breakdown of blood cells and others. From the clarifications. Just tell him it's not good for you.


    Sometimes the request of the children seems logical, and yet you do not respond directly to it ... Try to link your son's request to work so that it will be a reward for his accomplishment. This raises the value of the commodity to the child. If the child needs a bicycle, you can link his request to perform a duty such as helping you in the kitchen for a period of one month, for example, then he will feel the value of the bike and may preserve it. And get used to obeying his parents and assist them in the house. Notice that the duties that he will perform are not the usual daily duties that he will perform.


    Do not forget that your job is to raise your children until they go their way easily in life. Teach them that obtaining something requires real effort and that circumvention and insistence do not produce results.

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